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Where do I even begin? As usual there has been a ton going on but if we are being honest, it’s been sheer laziness that has kept me from blogging. I have soooo much I want to catch up on both in real life and in the blogging world. I am wayyyy behind on reading posts…. Like hopelessly behind. So if I haven’t commented in awhile, it’s not you, its me.

 

 

So to begin: (I always find bullet points to be the easiest way to keep me focused)

  • Almost 4 weeks ago I found out that the crushing chest pressure and myriad of other awful symptoms was atypical “walking” pneumonia. Apparently you don’t have to be coughing up a lung with pneumonia. Who knew? This I found out after seeing my family dr earlier in the day and learning that my symptoms were suspiciously similar to pulmonary embolism. Needless to say, as the day wore on and the test results didn’t come back, I became increasingly concerned. The concern coupled with the pain and the ever decreasing ability to actually breathe in enough oxygen finally inspired me to visit the ER where I found out that it was “just” pneumonia and apparently I’d had it for weeks already, hence the gut feeling that I had some kind of low-level underlying infection that was causing my perma-exhaustion, was spot on. Unfortunately…. Here we are, nearly a month later and 2 courses of antibiotics and I’m still a long way from feeling normal. I spend a ridiculous amount of time snuggled up to a heating pad and have acquired an unhealthy desire to sleep sleep sleep. My primary focus in life right now is to sleep so much that I finally wake up without lung pain and without the feeling that I have been swimming and inhaled a lot of water. I hate it but this too shall (probably) pass.
  • It’s probably partly due to, or at least exacerbated by the infection in my lungs, but the heart palpitations and tachycardia etc got so out of hand that I was experiencing hours a day of feeling like I was about to pass out. I even had a few incidents of losing strength in my limbs during these episodes. It was at the point where I was afraid to drive, be alone with the kids or carry the baby anymore in case I should pass out, and that was putting a huge hindrance on my abilities as a mom. When I visited the ER, they were able to see the symptoms I was having on the monitor and I gained a little peace of mind that I was probably going to live awhile longer despite feeling absolutely terrible during the episodes. Currently I am afraid to be too excited but it seems like the better I get from the pneumonia, the less of that heart stuff is going on. Which makes a lot of sense. But just to be safe, I had to wear a cardiac event monitor for 3 days. That was 2 weeks ago and I haven’t gotten results yet so I’m assuming its all good. I will be very happy to put all this health stuff behind me and get on with enjoying the holidays!
  • All that fun aside, my SIL went into labor 3 weeks ago and finally had her baby last week. Yes, you read that right. She had 2 weeks of almost nightly contractions between 11pm-5am or so. Apparently that is precipitous labor and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, bless her heart. By the time she finally had the baby, 2 weeks to the day since labor had started, she was completely exhausted! But my little nephew is perfect and adorable and mommy is healing and coping amazingly well. We are all proud of her and in love with the newest member of our family. And even though the loooooong labor resulted in 3 nights (including 2 in a row) of me staying up almost all night long with the parents-to-be and eventually resulted in 2 separate trips to the hospital (and that is truly only scratching the surface of the story), I am so honored that I was able to share in the special experience of welcoming little N into the world. 🙂 Hopefully if he has siblings someday, they will give their mommy an easier time of it.
  • We made 2 trips to the pediatrician in 2 days so that all 4 kids could get their checkups done. Everyone checked out beautifully and they are all growing well for their personal growth curves.
  • I am thrilled and relieved to say that after a visit to hematology and 2 more rounds of bloodwork (I think the total is 8 now), Zane has been discharged from the hematology clinic with wonderful news. No sign of cancer, no anti-neutrophil antibodies and only a slight concern that his thyroid function is a little low. We have a lab order for another thyroid test but aside from that, he is as healthy as an itty bitty peanut. Seriously. He’s only in the 15th percentile for weight. He’s our little petite toddler person at 25lbs. As far as what caused him to have neutropenia (and as of his latest bloodwork he is right at the cutoff still), we don’t have an answer. Maybe that is just how his body jives? We may never know. But as long as he is healthy and growing and has no signs of illness, I am happy to put this incidental finding behind us and finally relax after having this constant worry since June. I just thank the Lord for good news and this sigh of relief!
  • We had a wonderful Thanksgiving spent with DH’s family at his Grandma’s house. The next day we had amazing homemade wings with his family over at his parent’s house and Tru and Levi spent the night with their cousins. Then on Sat we went to my parent’s house and enjoyed a wonderful meal that my sister M prepared almost single handedly. I contributed some lumpy and pathetic mashed potatoes (my potato game was terribly off somehow) and S and G baked some lovely and beautiful pies. We made it through the entire evening without me “yelling” at anyone (mom always thinks I’m yelling at people cause I’m opinionated…) and without any fights or drama, so it was basically an epic Thanksgiving win. Plus, there were puppies. My SIL’s dog had 8 puppies a couple months ago and they are too much. I have to continually test my willpower to not bring one home now that they are weaning.
  • Speaking of which, next month will be 1 year since we got our dog Buddy from the shelter. He is still such a great dog and I have no regrets on getting him. He is perfect with the kids, calm, quiet… The best part is that he came house trained and old enough that we missed the chewy stage were everything and everyone becomes a chew toy. 😉
  • This is hardly post-worthy but I’m just having a great time lately using up stuff that seems to pile up around here: lotions, soaps, hair products, cleaning supplies (I made the switch over the last couple years to safer and more natural cleaning products but it took a lot of trail and error finding the best ones. I can’t just let the other stuff go to waste though!), supplements (like how many different multi vitamins do I really need to buy before finishing off the last bottle?) I have also been decluttering and getting rid of so many toys and baby clothes. I find baby clothes to be extremely sentimental. It helps that I can pass a lot of them on to my new nephew and at least this way I know they are getting good use.
I think I’m going to end this now as I still have separate updates to post for Quayd and Tru and it’s definitely time to post a Levi update again…. I can’t keep up! LOL But this a great problem to have. 🙂 One I am very very thankful for, now and always.
Until next time, God bless you all.

 

 

I don’t see how it’s possible that I haven’t written an update since Quayd was 8 weeks, but… Whatever. The passage of time is like some kind of strange phenomenon right now. Days are whizzing by and life has just literally never felt so fast before.

Anyway… I have an update on Tru in the works. I decided to do an interview this time. 😂 Hopefully I get that posted before he turns 18 or something crazy. My lands!!

Ok, about Quayd…. He’s doing amazing!! He’s growing well and is close to 14lbs now (13lbs 10oz when I last checked). He’s cooing more although he’s not as “talkative” as some of my other babies. He likes to really focus on our faces while we talk to him and he smiles a ton! He likes being tickled and laughs a lot. Sometimes when I’m snuggling him he randomly looks at me and laughs. He’s been doing this for weeks now! I don’t know what he finds so humorous but he’s just sucking away on his pacifier and then he looks at me and laughs. It’s so adorable! Quayd isn’t really a fan of bath time yet but he’s doing less screaming and more looking around curiously.

Much of this schedule related stuff is just for my own memories but I’m putting it on here anyway. 😉

I’m thrilled to say that Quayd is consistently going to sleep on his own anywhere from 10pm onwards but usually he’s ready to nurse and go to sleep by 10pm. He will nurse and then I usually snuggle him in my bed for a few minutes and he coos and smiles. He will then start to fuss a bit until I get him in his sleep sack. Once he’s all bundled up in that, he doesn’t want to be messed with anymore. He fusses until the lights are dimmed and he’s in his own bed with his binky. Generally he will lay there and look at me (I’m usually sitting in my bed pumping at that point) until he drifts off to sleep. It’s the cutest thing! Like he wants to know I’m close by but he’s not able to get comfortable in my arms, so he just looks at me from his bed. 😂

Thankfully Quayd has a good thing going with sleep (for now at least) and its working out great for me. I will oftentimes dream feed him around midnight before going to sleep myself. Then Quayd wakes up anywhere from 6:45-8:30am to eat. Occasionally he will wake to nurse around 4:30am but that feeding is pretty much gone now. If he wakes to eat on the later side around 8:30am, he will usually lay in my bed and kick and smile and coo for about an hour and then sleep until 12 or 1pm. He doesn’t really have a set schedule during the day yet but he has several naps and lots of playtime on his mat. He also loves his swing and will happily swing and nap for at least an hour here and there. I’m so thankful that after the first month or so, he really became a very chill and happy baby. 🙂

I’d say on an average day, Quayd probably nurses about 8-10 times. His feedings are short at about 5 minutes. He just nurses one side and then he’s done. I pump once when I get up and again at night. I use my haakaa at Quayd’s morning feeding and for any feedings where I’m feeling over full but thankfully I’ve gotten that down to just a couple times a day. It’s harder to use it now that football holding such a large baby is much more awkward. 😂

Wearing his pumpkin shirt to trunk or treat.

At his 3rd pumpkin patch/4th corn maze/1st hay ride. 😁

We’ve definitely had a busy and fun filled fall. We went to Indiana for 3 days/nights to visit DH’s sister and her family. We’ve gone on lots of walks and to lots of pumpkin patches and corn mazes. Quayd has attended his first wedding (on the outside of my body, that is) and traveled out of state! I’m so happy that despite my worries that adding a 4th baby to our family so soon was going to be insurmountably hard, he’s actually fitting right in. I’ve learned how to fit another person in and still get ready for church, go grocery shopping, cook and clean, go out to eat etc without any real difficulty. I’m so thankful!!! I know I never really wrote about my worries (I never found a way to express my feelings) but trust me, I had them. 🤣 Thankfully everything has turned out fine.

Dear God, thank You for this precious person. He’s a beautiful part of our lives and we are so grateful for him. In Jesus’ name, amen.

I wish I had more birth pictures I could share but the birth went so fast, we don’t actually have very many pictures. Due to the room being dark, the few pictures we do have are either dark, yellow and blurry from the dim light and no flash or very white when my sister tried using the flash. That’s ok though. Here are a few that I felt were post worthy and showed the mood* and atmosphere of the labor, birth and the first few days at home. Enjoy!

*You may notice that DH is stuck in a smile during the labor. He’s not trying to be cheesy for these candid shots, that’s just how the labor went. Apparently I crack a lot of dark but hilarious jokes when I’m running on almost 24 hours of no sleep and am in the thick of labor.

Stopping in the hall for a quick shot between contractions.

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After getting out of the shower, I decided to try laboring on my left side through a few contractions.

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I tried sitting on the ball and rocking my hips for a few minutes. That was very unpleasant.

After DH helped me get my bra back on, I went to the rocking chair. This is where transition took place and the pains became less manageable. Nobody but the nurse believed I was about to give birth though. It just felt so soon!

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I moved to the bed after the rocking chair and labored through a few contractions leaning over the back of the bed. Then I asked for the Dr to come break my water. I laid on my right side and began pushing before rolling onto my back and delivering him.

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And then he was here!

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After nursing for awhile

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This is about an hour after the birth. He’s been weighed and nursed and now his eyes were goopy from the ointment.

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First cuddles with Daddy.

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Meeting big brothers who were ever so excited. (And yes, Tru is wearing a mixing bowl that he decorated with paper and tape.)

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Zane couldn’t get over his excitement and wanted to hold Quayd forever

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Then it was Levi’s turn

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And finally Tru had a turn

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Then Zane cried and cried because we wouldn’t let him carry Quayd around like a stuffed animal

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First bath. I think he was 3 days old. The same day his cord fell off.

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Two adorable baby boys, well on their way to best friends status. ❤

Our little guy’s personality has come so alive the last couple weeks. He smiles constantly, coos, giggles, laughs when we tickle around his neck, he’s far less fussy, he loves to look at me and smile as he softly sucks his binky while he falls asleep. 💕 He’s completely stolen my heart! I can’t tell you how many times a day I look at him and just feel overwhelmed with love. He’s everything that our family could ever hope for, wrapped in the most precious little baby bundle. 😊

Quayd loves laying on the play mat and even swats at the toys although he doesn’t grab onto them often yet. I see him following us around the room with his eyes and turning his head towards our voices. His arms and legs are in constant motion when he’s focused on looking at his toys, like he thinks if he just kicks and waves hard enough he will be able to get to it. I also notice his little mouth working in concentration. It’s positively adorable!

His current schedule is:

  • Wake up about 8-9am and nurse, smile and interact with me while I pump. We stay in my bedroom for this feeding because he usually falls back to sleep.
  • Quayd wakes up again around 10:30-11am. Eat, play on his mat, smiles and interacts with his brothers for a bit and then usually takes a nap in his swing.
  • Wake around 1pm to eat, play more, sit in his little portable seat for a bit and then maybe eat again before another nap.
  • He continues through this cycle throughout the day but not at distinguished times.
  • Around 10-11pm he starts to fuss and won’t settle until he’s swaddled with his pacifier in his or my bed. I usually nurse him again and he falls asleep in his co sleeper for the night. The last week he’s been going to sleep for the night closer to 10:30, whereas previously it was around midnight usually.
  • Wake to nurse anywhere from 3-5am. If he doesn’t wake on his own, I dream feed him and use my haakaa pump out of necessity so I can remove some milk.

I’m still using my medela pump morning and night and using the haakaa about 2-3 times during the evening and during our middle of the night feeding. Usually I’m pumping around 28 ounces a day with the majority of that being in the morning.

*A bit TMI* I’m feeling pretty good and mostly back to normal. I think I’ve lost about 27lbs and I’m actually decently happy with my weight right now. My only real complaint is I’ve been having a LOT of heart palpitations the last 2 weeks. One experience was strange where we were walking in a corn maze with my in-laws. I felt perfectly normal when out of nowhere I had a strong flutter in my chest and felt my body go limp. I fell to my hands and knees as I had no ability to stand. If I was holding the baby, I’m sure I’d have dropped him, which scares me. Thankfully my mil had a wet washcloth and bottled water in her bag (apparently she’s prepared for absolutely anything, anywhere, which is super awesome) and after I drank some water and wiped my face, I started to feel more normal, albeit a little weak. I’m really hoping that never happens again because it scared me how it was out of nowhere. Maybe I was a little dehydrated though because looking back at that morning, I hadn’t drank much water besides my coffee. That same day I also started a 6 day long spree of stop and start spotting after having been completely done with all that for nearly 3 whole weeks. I don’t know if that was some kind of mini af or what but I’m definitely hoping af will stay gone for a few more months. 🤞*

Anyway, that’s all I have time for now. I’m trying to get an update for Tru posted this week (HE JUST TURNED 6 YEARS OLD!!! 😮💕) and Zane (we saw the hematologist and everything seems to be normal with our little toddler person ❤️ praise the Lord!!). I just need to find a few spare minutes to get those typed up.

Dear God, thank You for 2 more beautiful weeks with this precious little baby. He’s such a joy to our family and such a sweet person. I’m so thankful You chose to bless our family with Quayd. Please watch over and protect him all the days of his life. In Jesus’ name, amen.

I sent this to my sister and she sent it back edited. 😂 I’m happy to say that I survived the toy isle while pushing a double stroller and nursing an infant. I felt pretty hardcore after that. 🤣🤣🤣

Zane FINALLY started saying “mommy” this week. A few days ago I thought he said it but I wasn’t sure. Today he was coloring and wanted me to look at his picture and he held it up saying “Mommmmy!” My heart is so happy!! Why he waited so long to finally say my name is beyond me. The kid says dozens of words and several phrases as well as a few sentences (and yes, he says “Daddy” sometimes) but only now did he seem to realize that mommy has a name! 💙

I kept wanting to post all last week but I was so busy that I never dedicated any time to actually doing it. We had a really good week though! I’m happy to say that I got feeling better after the mastitis and felt like week 5 was when I finally was able to really bond with Quayd and come out of the sleep deprived haze and just fully enjoy him.

Saturday, the day he turned 5 weeks, DH and I got up super early, my mom and little sis came over to watch the boys and we headed to the annual fundraising walk that DH plays music at each year. I carried Quayd in the Moby wrap for 2+ hours and he LOVED it. It was really fun to have that time with him where I could just smell his little baby head and kiss his face while I carried him. Anyway, I started having some breast pain as the day wore on, so when we got home I rested as much as I could while DH and his dad worked on a project outside.

Sunday was church and later on we went to see DH’s parents.

Monday I had my postpartum visit. It was quick and easy and everything checked out well. The dr said she didn’t really think I had thrush in my nipples even though I had several symptoms. Just to be safe though, I do have a prescription in case symptoms flair up.

Quayd had his one month checkup on Tues. He checked out beautifully and his stats were: weight – 12lbs 1oz (92nd%ile), height – 22.25″ (69th%ile), head circumference 38cm (60th%ile). We actually spent a significant portion of Quayd’s appointment talking about Zane since the pediatrician had referred him to the hematologist and I wanted to know what to expect. Zane had gotten bloodwork done the week before that came back worse than before, so the pediatrician asked me to bring him in on Thurs so he could look him over while we wait for the hematology appointment.

Wednesday I just stayed home and cleaned.

So, Thurs Zane had his checkup. He looked great, has gained weight and is 24lbs 5oz now and his dr was very encouraging about what to expect when we go to the hematologist this week. Full update to follow on Zane soon. 🙂 Thurs evening we took the boys to a street fair and ended up staying till about 9:30pm watching tractor pulls and eating cotton candy and pizza. 😜

Fri after DH got done with work we took my brother to get the title notarized for the truck we sold him. His first ever vehicle! 🙂 Levi had an appointment, we went grocery shopping, stopped by my parent’s house for a quick visit and then went to the street fair again to watch the garden tractor and pedal pulls. The kids didn’t last as long that night so we left around 9pm.

Saturday we waited till evening and then went to a pumpkin patch and went for a glow stick corn maze. It was crazy and we were in there for over an hour. Just as lost as we could be! 😂 A guy finally came and helped us get out, which was good because Tru and Levi were starting to get worried.

Sunday morning I had an awful time finding something to wear. All my shirts are just a tad small still. So after church, DH took the boys to the park while I went clothes shopping at a new store in town. (I actually found 7 shirts, a skirt and 2 dresses.) Then we met up at his parent’s house and ended up staying the rest of the day and ordering pizza again for supper.

That brings us back around to today, Tuesday. I’m getting ready to have a friend over to visit. Tomorrow another friend is planning to come over. 🙂

So, what’s new with Quayd…

  • Lots more smiles and even a few coos/giggles
  • Much more alert and very interested in everything going on around him
  • Hates baths with a passion
  • His skin is clearing up and his cheeks are ever so kissable
  • He sleeps a good 3-6 hours at a time at night and usually is back to sleep after he eats. He tends to wake up around 4-5am and again around 7:30-8:30am. Then he’s up for the morning around 10-11am. He stays awake a couple hours and then takes a longish nap.
  • He’s starting to get very fussy when he’s ready to go to bed and doesn’t calm down when we hold him. I change his diaper, put him in his swaddle and lay him down and he chomps his pacifier till he goes to sleep. Mostly this has been around 10-11:30pm. I’m still trying to learn his schedule.
  • During the day he eats pretty often. I don’t really pay attention but it’s probably every 1.5-3 hours max.
  • I had to start pumping morning and evening with my medela pump to make sure I’m getting fully drained. I do NOT want to play around with blocked ducts or mastitis again! I use the Haakaa pump about twice during the day and during the middle of the night feeding. It does a good job and I like it but it’s definitely not a complete drain.
  • The boys still love to hug and hold Quayd. Every morning they come into my room and almost without fail they ask if he has learned to crawl yet. 😂 They are very anxious for him to be able to play with toys and interact with them. They LOVE that he smiles at them now. The other day I heard Tru telling Zane “I’m glad that you can say things now!” I know they’ll be so happy for Quayd to learn new things too. 🙂
  • Quayd will sit in his swing for short periods but I still hold him the majority of the day. He tends to wake up as soon as we lay him down. He is becoming more content for longer periods though, so I think maybe he is outgrowing his more fussy stage. Definitely not complaining though. I enjoy holding him and it gives me the perfect excuse to sit down and take lots of breaks.
  • Thankfully tummy time is super easy as Quayd loves to take a quick evening nap on his belly after the older kids go to bed. DH lays him on his belly on the floor and we watch him while he falls asleep and naps for a bit before we take him to our room for his bedtime feeding.

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ear God, thank You for Quayd. Thank You for helping me to feel better so I can enjoy taking care of him and his brothers. Please help us to stay healthy and enjoy this fall. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Written 9-12-19

Shew! What.A.Week. Last Thurs I came down with mastitis. I thought I was in the clear after the pain I’d been having the day before let up Thurs morning, but no. My body was just gearing up for the real pain that was coming that afternoon. By bedtime it had progressed red streaking, pain in my right breast, body aches and a fever with chills intermittently all night and into Fri morning. Fri I was also dizzy and nauseous. I spent all of Fri weak and laying in the recliner. Sat was a little better but I still laid around all day. Sun I made it to church and to the dollar store to grab a few things but by then my boob was aching again. Here it is a whole week later and the lump and pain are pretty much gone but I still don’t feel like myself. It doesn’t help that I came down with a head cold on Mon too and am dealing with a possible thrush infection in my nipples now. *sigh* I do have my postpartum checkup next week, so I’m hoping that if I still feel so run down by then, the dr will be able to shed some light on why and help me get feeling better.

But enough about me!! Little Quayd is smiling now!! He smiled for me a couple times yesterday and even cooed. DH didn’t believe he could actually smile but he was holding Quayd out on the porch and came hurrying in to tell me that Quayd smiled at him too. 😊 I’m excited for more smiles and coos and to see Quayd’s personality developing.

I’m always scared to admit this but sleep has been pretty good the last couple weeks. We even had 2 nights where Quayd slept from around 11pm to 5am, I think and 12:30am to 6:50am. I did wake up and pump in the night one of those nights. Most of the rest of the nights he’s been going to sleep anywhere from 11:30pm-1:30am and then waking to eat around 2-4am and again at 5-7am and then at 8am and up for the day around 10am. I’m really glad he’s getting the hang of sleep and I hope he stays on a good schedule.

Some things about Quayd at 4 weeks:

  • He’s only content when he’s awake if he’s being held, but specifically, walked or moved around. He’s not generally happy for long when he’s awake, unfortunately. This seems to be solidly linked to his belly being painful much of the time. I’ve started giving him infant probiotic drops to see if that helps.
  • He actually has moments where he likes tummy time, which is super cute. 💙
  • He seems to have a lot of trouble pooping but he’s not constipated. He just strains so much before finally having success. Poor little guy. :/
  • The boys are loving Quayd being more alert now. They love talking to him, holding his hands and kissing the top of his head. Levi asks to hold him frequently but Tru and Zane are content with just holding his hands and kissing him.
  • Quayd hates baths for the most part, so we just do those every few days and sponge him off in-between times. He’s got very oily skin on his face and of course, baby acne, but it seems to be clearing up now. I forget if I mentioned this in my last update but it’s interesting to me that we both had a breakout at the same time. Like our hormones are still linked somehow.
  • I weighed Quayd yesterday and if my scale is correct, he’s already 11lbs 12oz!! 😱 That’s over 3lbs up from his birth weight of 8lbs 6oz. I’m looking forward to his checkup next week to see if my scale is telling the truth.
  • I ordered a bunch of pacifiers and we found one Quayd likes. Amazon sent me a pink and purple one instead of the blue ones in the picture. 😂 I’m just happy we finally got one that makes Quayd’s mouth feel happy. 💙
  • I bought a swing last week and finally set it up today. He seemed to like it for the few minutes we tried it!

I’m really thankful for all those meals I froze at the end of pregnancy. Between those (16, but actually more because some were big enough to last a couple nights), the meals people have brought us (4), the pre prepped frozen meals I bought (3) and the couple times we’ve bought take out, I’ve only had to actually cook a few times! It’s been great. Unfortunately, all good things must come to an end as we only have 3 frozen meals left. It’s gonna be tough to get back in the swing of things with meal prep and planning but it will also be nice to have some freshly prepared food. Frozen just is never the same.

Dear God, thank You for pulling us through this week. Please bless us with strength and health and happiness. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Fresh and clean after his bath

Ever since Quayd was born there is a question everyone, young and old, asks as soon as they first see him. “What is that redness on his face?”

At first everyone just assumed it was bruising from the birth. In fact, when he was born I myself didn’t even consider that the redness could be anything other than bruising until the nurses pointed it out and told us it was called Stork Bites. They said this is common and tends to go away or lighten in color by age 3, but a couple of Quayd’s marks are very dark and might not go away. The marks on the back of his head, neck and back won’t be going away.

Now I’m getting the question “Were you sad when you saw the stork bites and found out they might not go away?” The answer to this is simply, no. To be honest, I was so in love with my new little boy, it didn’t occur to me that being sad about his appearance was even possible! Actually, I thought they were pretty cute. It’s just part of how my little Quayd is made and it doesn’t bother DH or I at all. Now, as to whether it might bother Quayd someday, I don’t know. If the marks never lighten or go away, he might not like them, particularly if he gets teased about them. But I hope he will see them as something that makes him unique in a good way. In fact, in some cultures, stork bites (which are also commonly called angel kisses) are actually seen as a sign of good luck!

So, a few things to know about stork bites:

  • They’re not contagious.
  • It’s not rash.
  • They become darker when Quayd is hot or when he cries.
  • They are super obvious if we use the camera flash or if he’s in bright lighting. For this reason you might notice them more in some pictures than others.
  • I’m not sure exactly what causes them but I’ve read online that they are composed of hyper dilated blood vessels.
  • No, it’s not from our rapid birth experience. Quayd already had these marks prior to birth.
  • And last but not least, it doesn’t hurt my feelings that people are curious about why his face has redness on it. I am surprised by the shear number of people who stop to ask about it, but I think at first everyone just assumed it was bruising from the birth.

Guys! I don’t want to regret saying this later but, we’ve had 4 good nights of sleep in a row! In fact, the last 2 nights Quayd slept from 12:30am (when we went to bed) until 5:45am. I actually woke him up to eat this morning when I woke up at 5:30am so engorged that I absolutely needed him to eat. He usually eats around that time anyway but had also been waking up for a 2:30am feeding. Then he sleeps most mornings from 6am to 8am and then goes back to sleep after a half hour or so and sleeps until 10-11am. He’s having so much more alert time each day and I think we are starting to see a schedule emerging. I love that he’s awake now for an hour or two here and there. His eyes and facial expressions are so stinking cute! The boys absolutely love seeing him awake. But sleeping cuddles are always the best. ❤️😊

This baby is a chunk!! DH and I both stepped on the scale with him tonight and he appears to be 10lbs 12oz already! 😱😮 I don’t even know what to think about that. He probably won’t fit size one diapers much longer. He’s completely out of his newborn outfits and is filling out his 0-3 month outfits perfectly and some 3 month outfits almost fit already. Thankfully his belly button is fully healed now and isn’t bleeding anymore like it had been last week.

This was my first week solo with the kids all day, all week. It went pretty well! My older sister came to visit us on Sat and then we visited some of DH’s relatives later on. Sun we had church and then a church party afterwards. It was a long and tiring day as it was over 90° and very humid outside and we were there for hours but it was so great to be around friends and family and get to show the little guy off as it was our first time back at church since he was born.

Today (Mon) we went for a quick visit to see DH’s parents and pick Tru and Levi up from them since they spent the night last night. Then we went for a drive and bought a sort of picnic lunch. I’m pretty tired now and I feel like this is a bit jumbled, so here are some bullet points….

  • Quayd is still a bit fussy when he’s awake but he loves the baby carrier and I bought him a swing today (our old swing broke) and I’m hoping he will like that too.
  • He smiled at me for real once at 2 weeks 4 days (Aug 24th) but only tiny smiles since. I’m so looking forward to more smiles!
  • He loves being talked and sang to.
  • He’s definitely not a huge fan of being in his carseat but usually calms down as soon as I turn on some music.
  • We’ve tried 6 different types of pacifiers and he’s just not great at keeping them in his mouth but he’s starting to accept them more. I have one more style to try!
  • Poor little guy is awfully gassy. He almost never spits up and isn’t a big burper but boy does he rips some big ones! His poor belly gets so painful. I have some gripe water that I plan to try giving him tomorrow now that he’s old enough to use it.
  • Im still using the haakaa pump several times a day at feedings but I’ve had to pull out my medela a couple mornings when the engorgement was too intense. I’m typically getting 20+ ounces a day depending on how many feedings I pump during with the haakaa.
  • I’ve lost around 23lbs now and aside from sore nipples and a headache every day, I feel pretty normal again. 🙂 Definitely still some lingering brain fog, but hopefully that will clear up now that I’m getting longer periods of sleep.

Levi asks constantly to hold Quayd and I feel bad that, because Quayd is pretty fussy, I usually have to say no. Overall, the boys have done AMAZING with this whole transition. I expected they would take it much harder than they have. Levi has probably struggled the most as he’s always been our most cuddly kid and needs LOTS of attention. I took him out for ice cream the other day while I ran a quick errand with just him and Quayd. I think he liked that special time together as he chatted with me the whole time. ❤️I started school with Tru and Levi on Aug 29th. It was hard to get it all done but they enjoyed their lessons. I’m nervous about having so much to do every day and I know it won’t be easy, but I’m so thankful for this time to pour into these little guys while they are so young and so happy to just be with me. I’ll have to post more on this later though. I need to do seperate updates on each kid as they are long overdue for an update now.

Dear God, thank You for more sleep and more bonding time with Quayd. Thank You for how well he’s doing and for blessing us so much with such a beautiful baby boy. Please keep watching over us and protecting each of us. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Written 8-24-19

Things are settling in and we are finding our rhythm now a bit more. Even though we still have just pieced together bits of sleep at night (and some nights he doesn’t really sleep until 2-3am!), the fogginess isn’t so profound most of the time and I’m learning how to function on less sleep again.

DH’s sister and her family came to visit today and meet Quayd. It was such a beautiful day that we ended up spending the entire day outside from morning until evening. DH and I took the kids for a walk in our neighboring town and rented a movie and made popcorn for movie night. It was nice and I think the boys really enjoyed it. We actually took a walk around town yesterday too. Now that it’s not a million degrees out we are really enjoying getting to be outside again. This was Quayd’s most awake and alert day so far. I think he liked being outside. 🙂

Really he’s been an incredibly sleepy baby so far and when he is awake, he’s either eating or crying. Not much of his awake time is spent being content, although he does love it when we talk or sing to him. He’s great at engaging in eye contact and focusing on our face while we talk. He still does the cutest blinky eyes when he wakes up and tries to adjust his eyes to the light. It melts my heart!

I’m really glad I bought the Haakaa pump this time. I’ve literally only used my medela 5 times. I love that I can use the Haakaa on one side while I nurse on the other and it’s noiseless and I only have one thing to wash afterwards. I’ve been using it at about 2/3 of feedings and have been able to collect about 20 ounces per day, some of which I’m freezing but mostly I’m trying to get as much breastmilk in Zane as possible. (Unfortunately, poor Zane had his latest bloodwork come back about the same as last month. Basically we are still in limbo and waiting to retest again next month.)

I can’t believe Quayd has already gained over a pound! He was 9lbs 9oz yesterday, up from 8lbs 6oz at birth. He nurses pretty much every 2 hours all day, occasionally going closer to 3 hours. In the evenings after the boys go to bed, I take Quayd to my room and just sit in bed nursing him almost constantly for a couple hours (cluster feeding, I guess) while trying to keep him awake as much as possible so he will sleep at night. Overnight he nurses about every 2-3 hours but occasionally doesn’t go quite as long. Despite the fact that he is constantly taking in milk, he hardly ever spits up. He really doesn’t like his pacifier too well, although he will take it sometimes. He would LOVE to use me as a pacifier full time though. 😂 We learned that, just like Tru, Quayd absolutely hates being swaddled with his arms down. He likes to sleep with his arms up by his head, so I wrap the swaddle at night so that his arms are out.

DH went back to work on Thurs this week and then worked from home Fri. My sister M came over for a couple hours Thurs to visit and then a friend brought dinner which was awesome and super helpful! Being on my own with the kids went pretty smoothly, thank God and I’m just hoping we get into a groove easily and quickly. 🙂

As for me, I’m definitely not feeling like myself emotionally yet as much as I’d hoped, but more so than last week, so that’s good. I think more sleep would probably go a long way with helping me feel less foggy and moody. I know this newborn phase where they don’t sleep well at night doesn’t usually last too long, so I’m just trying to get by until then. DH is great about taking the baby so I can sleep but unfortunately I still have a hard time racking up enough Z’s. The postpartum night sweats don’t help either but I think they’re supposed to calm down after 2 weeks. On the plus side, I’ve managed to drop 21 pounds already, so I’m pretty happy about that! It’s opened up a lot more outfit choices again too, which is awesome. 🙂

Dear God, thank You for beautiful weather to enjoy with the kids and for blessing us so much. Please help me to recover quickly and feel back to my usual self soon. Thank You for Quayd doing so well with eating and growing and I pray that he will have more happy alert times during the day soon. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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