Archives for the month of: June, 2018

I know that a lot of people stumble across my blog, thanks to google. Many of them are looking for hope and encouragement in their fertility journey. Since infertility will always be a subject close to my heart, I want to get this information out there in case it might be of help to someone. 

When we were trying to improve DH’s sperm count, motility, and morphology, I researched natural ways to help. It seems there is an overwhelming amount of information on the internet for natural supplements, but it’s all scattered around here and there and takes forever to sort through. As I sifted through everything, I compiled this list. 

Keep in mind, I have no medical degree and I certainly am not advising anyone to take this huge pile of supplements. In fact, I can’t even tell you that it will up your count or quality at all. All I know is, whether or not it contributed to the miracle conceptions that God blessed us with, it certainly didn’t hurt. Most of these supplements are good for your general health, regardless and are things DH needs to be on to keep other health issues at bay. So, here goes.

Vitamin C – 1,500mg

Vitamin E – 800iu (I prefer to use the natural version of vitamin E, vs the synthetic)

Zinc – 60mg

B12 – 100mcg (We actually take a b-complex that is methylated for better absorption. I’ll gladly tell you what it’s called if you want to know.)

Selenium – 200mcg

CoQ10 – 100mg

L-Carnitine – not sure of amount

Vitamin A – this was in a multi he was taking at the time, so I’m not sure on the dose of this either

Flax oil and/or Fish oil – 1,200mg 

L-Arginine – 500mg

Vitamin D – 5,000iu

Astaxanthin – 12mg

Obviously, you should check this list over with your dr before taking these things. Particularly if you are on medication as the supplements and meds could interact. I just wanted to put this list our there in case it could help someone else. 

*For reference, DH’s last semen analysis (he’s had many) was 1million, sub par motility and 0% morphology. We have gone on to have 3 successful pregnancies through ivf and spontaneous conception since that test. 🙂 


Since the little guy is sleeping on my lap right now, I thought I’d type up a quick update. 🙂 

Zane has been growing up by leaps and bounds the last few weeks. He has his 2 bottom teeth now, which came in within just a few days of each other. (June 3rd and 8th) They caused quite a disruption to his sleep (and mine) and gave us lots of uncomfortable nights trying to co-sleep. Bless you if that’s your thing and you can sleep comfortably. I cannot. It leaves me sore and tired, but you do what you gotta do when the teeth are coming in. Right? Anyway, I’m happy that Zane is feeling better now and hopefully his other teeth will play nice. 😉 

Zane is in full army crawl mode with lots of rocking on all fours and the occasional crawl-step forward which usually causes him to face-plant. He can get anywhere he wants with his super fast and efficient army crawl. The other morning I brought him to the family room and laid him on the floor. I ran to the bathroom and when I came back, he was nowhere to be found! He’d crawled into Tru’s room. Ever since, I’m constantly having to go retrieve him from various places. He’s definitely into exploring! 

This kid has a great sense if humor. His brothers absolutely crack him up. His favorite is scooting over to their bedroom doors at night when they are supposed to be in bed. Instead I see them sticking their arms under the door and making Zane laugh. It’s gotten to be quite the thing lately and definitely a great bedtime stall tactic. 😏

Zane is quite the eater now and eats at least one jar of baby food per meal, 3 times a day. I still usually add a bit of rice or wheat cereal to it because he likes it better that way. I’ve also been adding a bit of formula powder to beef up the calories. The little guy is about 17lbs 9oz now in the 30%ile. He’s growing great though on his own more petite curve, so it’s fine. 🙂 DH is tickled that Zane is on the smaller side because he’s staying little longer. 🙂 His iron is also great at 11.3. 

I’m still breastfeeding but Zane usually has other things he’d rather do, unless he’s tired, sad or is snuggling in my bed. He was getting up as much as 4 times at night to nurse when he wasn’t feeling well. Lately it’s been just once, or occasionally twice. During the day he nurses about 4 times. I have the feeling that he will self-ween earlier than I’d like, but whatever is best for him is fine for me. I do cherish our time to just snuggle though, just me and him. 

Sleep is interesting now. He started rolling over during the night about 3 weeks ago. Off came the swaddle!! It wasnt as hard a transition as I feared but I do have some stress with it because he likes to sleep NOSE down. I’m constantly checking his nose in the night…. Naps are still either in the swing (asleep in 2 seconds with his music on and swing set on 4) or in my arms. Never without a blankie of some sort except on the rare occasion when we are driving and forget to bring one. He also loves to snuggle his head against his stuffed elephant at naptime. Binkies are an absolute must now too! He used to not be in love with them, but now?….

Zane’s favorites are: 

  • Dumping his toys out of his toy basket and tasting every single one. 
  • Finding every miniscule crumb on the floor and trying to eat it. 
  • Sitting in his walker and driving around while he eats puffs (broken up) and melts (also broken).
  • Taking baths and splashing the whole.entire.time.
  • Smiling and laughing at the baby in the mirror.
  • Playing with his brothers and just being one of the big kids.
  • Snuggling in my bed in the morning. Biggest smiles ever. 🙂 
  • A couple fuzzy blankets that are just so soft that he can’t even with them and he falls right to sleep. 

Zane’s dislikes: 

  • I’m having a hard time thinking of any. He’s so happy…. Well, one thing is, he doesn’t like his brothers kissing on him when he’s tired. 
  • Doesn’t like laying still for diaper and clothing changes. 

I noticed today that Zane looks at each family member when I say their name. It’s so crazy and neat that he knows who everyone is and understands what I’m saying when I ask where they are. For a long time now he’s tried to mimic sounds that we make. He’s a very observant and curious little person. 

Dear God, thank You so so much for this beautiful little person. Thank You for all the joy he brings to everyone he meets. Thank You for his quick and vibrant smile and for all the fun we have with him. Please protect and bless him all the days of his life. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

Hair tent on his ears lol

I don’t know how to start this post, so I’ll just jump right in. 
As I’ve mentioned before, I grew up with 5 sisters and 4 brothers. That makes for lots of built-in friends. Over the years, I haven’t felt the desire to make/maintain many friendships because, honestly, I’ve had all my siblings and didn’t need more relationships to cultivate and nurture. It’s not that I didn’t want friends too but I just didn’t hardly have the time. And, more to the point as I’ve also written about before, I am just rather awkward and uncomfortable in social situations, so I’m not great at making friends to begin with. 

I’m at a really weird place in my life now though. 3 of my sisters and 1 brother are leaving over the course of just a few months to live in various places, some long term and the others for unknown lengths of time. They are all moving for different reasons but since they are all close in age, everything is happening all at once. One of my sisters already moved an hour away 10 years ago. I know it’s not that far, but it kind of is. The one sister still at home is almost 15 years younger than me. I love her dearly and we have good chats, but we are in vastly different places in our lives. The same with all of my younger brothers. 

In a word, I’m lonely. 

I never really thought I’d find myself in this place. Sure, I can still text and call them. But gone are the days of having them drop by to see us or play with the kids. Gone are the days of piling in the van and running errands together. It’s weird. I’m not at a place I thought I’d ever be. We were always going to live nearby and hang out. Our kids were going to grow up together and we were going to be each other’s babysitters. But now? …. Sure, they might eventually move closer but for now…. I’m lonely. And I don’t want my kids to also become lonely. 

So, I find myself sitting here, my best friend living 24 hours (by car) away… 4 siblings moving states away. And I’m wondering, can I make friends? Am I just too awkward? Too weird? 

I take my kids to storytime week after week and I don’t make friends. I have lots of “friends” who I very dearly love, at church, but we don’t really hang out much. Of course, I don’t try… I’m friendly but I’m not outgoing. I don’t generally strike up conversations. I’m always afraid I’ll bore or inconvenience people, so I don’t try to set up play dates etc. I’m not a “girly girl”, so I never know what anyone is interested in currently to talk about. (I’m the mom who takes her kids fishing for fun.) I’m not animated or interesting. And of course, there’s the nervous tripping over of words…  Basically, I’m a hot mess! 

I know that I can be a fairly cool person once you get to know me. I’m pretty chill. I’m acceptably humorous. I don’t pretend to have it all together. If your kid throws tantrums and eats their boogers in front of me, it’s not going to bother me at all. You don’t have to clean your house to have me over because I’m definitely not going to go out of my way to clean for you. I just want REAL friends… people who will be real with me and not put on an airbrushed front. But I don’t know how to get past the initial awkward phase and start making friends! 

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